Talking to Gen Z about challenging topics like mental health, sexuality, and relationships can sometimes feel like trying to thread a needle... in the dark... during an earthquake. Okay, maybe it’s not that dramatic, but it is tricky. This generation is socially conscious, digitally native, and unapologetically curious—they aren’t here for surface-level conversations or outdated platitudes.
If you’re a youth leader, pastor, or educator working closely with Gen Z, you’ve likely realized that the old approaches just don’t cut it anymore. Gen Z needs a space that’s authentic, inclusive, and safe enough for them to openly explore these heavy topics.
Here are 10 strategies to help you engage Gen Z in meaningful conversations about tough topics without losing their trust (or your sanity).
1. Start With Empathy, Not Answers
This generation isn’t looking for someone to swoop in with all the answers. They want to feel heard. When discussing topics like mental health or sexuality, begin by asking questions, listening attentively, and validating their emotions. A simple “Tell me more about how you’re feeling” or “What’s your perspective on this?” goes a long way.
Why it works: Empathy builds connection and shows that you’re invested in their experience, not just in delivering a lecture.
2. Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable
Gen Z thrives on fearless honesty, so buckle up. They’ll ask the awkward, unfiltered questions. Be ready to discuss topics you might not traditionally address in church, classroom, or youth groups.
Whether it’s questions like, “Why does the church seem to avoid LGBTQIA+ issues?” or “What does God say about anxiety and depression?” avoid defensiveness. Instead, lean in with humility and openness.
Pro tip: It’s okay not to have all the answers. Sometimes saying, “That’s a question I’m still working through myself” is the most authentic response you can offer.
3. Make It a Conversation, Not a Monologue
Gen Z rejects hierarchy. They’re not about sitting quietly and taking notes while someone lectures them. Instead of preaching at them, create an atmosphere of dialogue. Ask more questions and invite discussion.
Think about it this way: A great conversation is like a game of ping-pong. Keep the ball in motion. If you’re the only one serving, you’re doing it wrong.
Action Step: Kick off the conversation with an open-ended question like, “What do you think about how mental health is talked about in the media?” and watch the discussion unfold.
4. Show Up With Cultural Awareness
Gen Z expects you to speak their language—not in a cringey “What’s up, fam?” way, but with genuine cultural awareness. They value inclusivity, mental health advocacy, and social justice, and they care deeply about issues like gender identity and racial equity.
Example: When discussing sexuality, acknowledge and respect the wide spectrum of identities they encounter daily on social media. Navigate the conversation with sensitivity, understanding, and biblical truths that focus on love and compassion rather than judgment.
Pro tip: Take the time to understand the cultural influences shaping their worldview (TikTok trends included).
5. Lead with Stories, Not Statements
Gen Z connects with people, not abstract ideas. Sharing personal stories or the lived experiences of others can make tough topics feel relatable and real. For example, when discussing mental health, share a time you faced anxiety or leaned on your faith for strength.
Why it matters: Stories are memorable, and they create trust and vulnerability. It’s through stories that you can translate biblical principles into something tangible Gen Z can grasp.
6. Provide Practical, Real-World Applications
Theory is cute, but practicality is king. When tackling tough topics like mental health, provide clear, actionable steps tailored to their life stage.
Idea: After a conversation on mental health, suggest simple practices like journaling or creating a “go-to” playlist of worship songs for tough days. For sexuality, talk about the importance of boundaries and what healthy relationships look like.
Takeaway: Gen Z appreciates answers that don’t just “sound good” but actually work.
7. Bring in a Biblical Perspective Without Overshadowing the Humanity
Faith is vital, but don’t overlook the value of talking about the human experience first. Gen Z doesn’t just want to know what the Bible says about something; they want to understand why it matters to their lives.
For example:
- Instead of saying, “The Bible says anxiety is a lack of trust in God,” try, “What can Scripture teach us about coping with anxiety?” Pair biblical truth with the emotional and psychological tools they need to thrive.
What’s key: Bridge the gap between spiritual principles and everyday relevance.
8. Foster a Judgment-Free Space
This one’s BIG. Gen Z can often feel judged or misunderstood, especially when it comes to topics like sexuality or mental health. Make it abundantly clear that your conversations are a safe zone, free of judgment.
Set ground rules like:
- “This is a space for honesty, not perfection.”
- “No questions are off-limits.”
Result: When they feel safe, they’ll open up more.
9. Use Tools and Resources They Can Explore Independently
Gen Z loves autonomy and self-learning. Equip them with resources so they can explore on their own outside the conversation. This could include podcasts, articles, YouTube sermons, or even TikTok creators who align with your values and vision.
Example Resources: Recommend apps like Calm for mindfulness, or point them to books like The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer to help them process faith and mental health.
Why it works: Independent learning empowers them to “own” their growth.
10. Celebrate Their Openness and Curiosity
Gen Z wants to have these conversations. Their curiosity is a strength, not a challenge. Acknowledge and celebrate their willingness to wrestle with difficult issues rather than shying away.
Words of affirmation: Say things like, “I love that you’re thinking deeply about this,” or “This is exactly the kind of question God loves for us to explore together.”
Bottom line: Affirmation builds trust and encourages them to keep engaging in these meaningful dialogues.
Wrapping It Up
Engaging Gen Z in tough conversations isn’t about having all the answers or perfect delivery. It’s about creating trust, listening more than you speak, and walking alongside them on their journeys of faith and self-discovery.
Want help navigating these topics? Check out Reframe’s Curriculum designed specifically for youth leaders like you. With tools to foster deep, culturally relevant conversations, Reframe is here to help you empower Gen Z in faith and life.
Because the only thing tougher than these conversations is not having them.